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Something i need to stress about bdsm play is the safety, trust and discretion aspects of it.
In the 15 years i have been into bdsm i have found that most women who gain pleasure from the Dom/sub scenario fall into two or three categories. Firstly there are those that in everyday life are very much in control and have otherwise quite dominant personalities - for them it can be a release or maybe a discreet escape from a marriage that perhaps has gone cold sexually. The second type of women that i have come/cum across tend to be younger, perhaps less confident sexually and for whom the submissive role actually acts as a confidence booster. They tend to enjoy the idea of looking completely innocent whilst secretly gaining a huge amount of sexual experience. This does change their character and personality over time in both overt and rather more discreet ways which for their dom is both fun and satisfying to watch.The third reason for getting into it is simply the dresire to act or to be shown how to act like a slut - the secret slut syndrome if you will.
Anyone who has been into bdsm will no doubt recognise the above scenarios.
Having said the above no matter what the age or personality in many cases bdsm simply provides an opportunity that enables you to fulfill long held fantasies in a safe and discreet way - why die wondering !
Women i see regularly know they can contact me as and when the need/urge arises and so i try to ensure i am available at short notice however more complicated scenarios such as group or bi sessions obviously take time to arrange. In order for any of this to happen its essential that a level of trust is built up between both parties and this too takes time. For this reason my priority will always be those people i am already seeing and so i may not always be interested in meeting new people. Should this be the case i have put a link at the bottom of this page to another website which you may find of interest.
I would also point out that bdsm has many aspects and does not always have to involve having sex. The most popular scenarios initially tend to be focussed around aspects of restraint and anticipation. As an example imagine yourself restrained and blindfolded... not knowing how you will be touched, where you will be touched or indeed by what you will be touched...a very simple session which can be hugely arousing for those that have not experienced it before...a scenario such as this can be a good introduction to bdsm for novices/first timers.
I cannot make it clear enough how important it is that safety and discretion are always paramount (for both me and you) in order to get the most from our time together.
Another tip for those who at this stage are simply intrigued about bdsm is to read a book. The Story of O was written many years ago but even now is considered a classic - it charts the journey of a young lady into the world of bdsm. You may find yourself getting rather moist whilst reading so its a good bedtime book...lol.
That other site.....
If you are new to the bdsm scene and want to know more you may find the following of interest. With almost 4 milion members wordwide the most popular website for bdsm is www.alt.com
Including couples there are amost 600,000 UK listings or profiles on this site.
An amusing way to pass some time is to try and spot them.....lol. Some people choose to display subtle (or not so subtle) indications for those in the know !
And yes...in case you wondering i do have an alt profile - its dirtygentleman.
If you do take a look at the site you can register for free but be warned many people on there are into somewhat extreme aspects of bdsm play - aspects which i have no interest in. Other people on there have face pics (expect genitalia as the norm tho...yawn) on their profile for all to see. Browsing the profiles of people in your area can provide some amusing surprises. Enjoy.....
click here to visit the site
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